Husband of One
2009 © Elder Scott Ray S.B.G.
The 5th Edition
Pauline Doctrine - Grace Believing - King James Only
This is my 5th edition of the subject of the
"husband of one wife". Much like the Apostle Paul, I to have met with great
opposition over the years
in the calling of a preacher. We need to remember to rightly divide the Word of Truth and see who it is written to and who it is not written to in
order to operate under the right program. The Law of Moses was given to the Jews by Moses. It was not given to the Gentiles. They had their
own laws. The world today operates in a legalistic manner, in all manners and areas of our lives. Religions, Traditions of Men, and local church
Denominations also mainly opperate in a Law system. One simular to the Law system that the Jews were to abide by, that is, until they were all
judged in unbelief in the book of Acts, which you find more out about it from Galatians. This system is a IF YOU DO THIS...THEN YOU GET
THIS. With that thought in mind, it is no surprise as to all the conflict in the churches today. We are in the Dispensation of the Grace of God now
and have been for quite a while (2000 years). However, if the churches play the Law system, there should be no question as to why everything
seems to be in disorder. That would also include the Qualifications of a Bishop / Elder, or as many now refer to, a Pastor, or a Preacher.
One thing to keep in mind is that when Paul wrote to Timothy in 1st Timothy, and Chapter 3 about the qualifications of a Bishop, you must not
look at it as most do. Here I am guilty. I did so in ignorance. I originally looked at it from a certain denominational view and then tried to say it
all with Grace. That was wrong. To look at any of Paul's writtings, we must remember it was written to the Members of the Body of Christ in
Grace, so all of Paul's writtings must be read from a Grace perspective. If you run with the Law in your practices, Paul's writtings will seem to
be foolish to you. Law is to them who are under the Law, the Jews. You, if you have not believed in vain, are the same as I am, under the
Grace of God. Moses lead a Group of People who were to be seperated unto God in the Law. Paul lead a Group of People who were to be
seperated unto God in the Grace of God. Law = works justification, or a piece meal deal. Grace = Christ's Righteousness on you, not based on
your actions, but by Grace through Faith. So we being under Grace need to examine these qualifications in chapter 3 without reguard to church
denomination, traditions of men, and religion. There are plenty of all three all over the whole earth. Sounds like the earth got subdued by man.
1 Timothy 3:1 "This is a true saying, If a man desire the office of a bishop, he
desireth a good work."
"If a man desire the office of a bishop" is the
highlight here! Where is the calling? Where is it? Show us in this verse where
it is! Do not run back
to the Gospels, or to the OT. Stay right here in Paul's wittings and show us in this verse the calling! You can not do it! Why? It is self desired!
Look at it! "If a man desire the office of a bishop" Now why is this never openly discussed? Maybe to coin a phrase from the early 20th century
"Open a can of worms" may apply here for the religious authorities? Also the work of the office is decribed as "he desireth a good work.". Need
I point out any more? The one who desires the office is being pointed out here. It is all about his desire! This is not a "calling"!
It is a work. A very important resposibility, not something you show up for and supply a resume in order to get put on the pay roll. Souls, not
money. Labor with your hands. Labor in the Word and provide doctrine and teaching with no charge to the local church. Labor for Christ now.
1 Timothy 3:2 "A bishop
then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good
behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;"
Here Paul begins to outline the
requirements of this man who desires this position! By
the way, the first requirement Paul mentioned is "A
bishop then must be blameless". Are any of us who desire this position "BLAMELESS"? Men all may try to explain it away, or change it, or use
different dictionaries, or different commentaries, or depend on their seminary years, but brethren I am here to tell you NONE OF US ARE
BLAMELESS and if you want to act like a bunch of stuck up snobs, feel free to do so, but be mindful, every many shall give an account of
himself, even though your sins were all paid in full by Jesus Christ. If you are in Christ, you are Blameless, in view of the sight of God.
"A bishop then must be blameless" is not just the focas, but some grammer is needed here. "Then" is a Time-Sensitive word the denotes when
something shall occur. "Must" is a dominate word that denotes a Required Action. With that in mind, a Man who seeks to be a Bishop has to be
right then and there married to only one woman. His wife if limited. She is the woman he exists with right then and there. It has nothing to do
with the mans past. He could have been married once before. Perhaps before he was saved by Grace through Faith, he was already a man who
was divorced. By Grace...under Grace. As God for Christ's sake forgave you of all your tresspasses, so also do ye. Heard that one before?
Another focus about the Husband of One Wife, here is, that it is distinctively and totally limited to the man, never a woman. Outside the area
of perverse women, women can not have a wife, so therefore, the Bishop's office is totally limited to the one created first, the man, not woman.
Now we are going to look at the taboo part
of the verse! "the husband of one wife" is not an exclusion of a remarried
(widower) man! It is not an
exclusion of a divorced man! It isn't an exclusion of a divorced and remarried man! It is to prevent a polygamist from entering the ministry. Many
of the religious leaders are guilty of hurting many dear brethren by not allowing them to preach because of the "ONE and ONLY" game! What is
this game you say? The "ONE and ONLY" game is if you are a preacher of only ONE wife for life, no matter how many affairs happen, both
known and unknown, and you are the ONLY ones who get to preach! I have watched the game before I was converted, and sad to say, I have
watched all the way till now! To be honest...you guys make me ill. But the blood of our Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ washed away your sins
too, that is, if you did not believe in vain, but truely believed on the Lord Jesus Christ! ONE and ONLY is the practice of religion. Grace and
forgiveness is of God. You can forgive others as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you, or you can run with the demands of man's religion's.
Now let's go on to "vigilant" or "to keep the
watch"! Are any of you really truly willing to do this requirement full
time? It is not an option. It is a
REQUIREMENT. You must keep the watch for the souls you are to care for. If you are just going to be an employee or a big shot, then you
may want to remember that every man shall give an account for himself, and not a listing of achievements and awards according to that of man.
As the Bishop, you are the one who has the watchful care of the local members of the Body of Christ, not a nice paycheck and a title only.
Next on the list is "sober" or "not addicted to
intoxicating drinks". Hope none of us ever fall short here,
though I am sure there are many of us,
if we tell the truth, have at least once gave in and never openly admitted it to others! Publick testimony is big here! Do not forget it! This can
apply really to anything that becomes addictive to you, not matter what it is, pornography, smoking, drugs, drinking, telling lies, stealing, etc.
Requires a man who is very mindful of his own thoughts and actions, not just in publick, but as well as in private. The private times tell who
we are before ourselves, our families, our neighbors, fellow workers, fellow worshippers, but also most importantly before God Almighty.
How about "of good behaviour" or "conducting oneself in a good way, both privately and publickly"? Do you adhere or do you falter? Are you
obedient to your Master, or do you slip here any? Every eye is on us each day, and this one is very pivitable, my beloved brethren! Remember
"by example"? Watch your walk if you want to be honored, not feared as a dictator! Do not become a "Boss Hogg", but be a humble servant!
Are any of us greater than our Master? God Forbid! Remember a man can not have two masters. For he will hate the one and love the other.
How you behave in front of others is and will be remembered, especially if you are seeking to become a Bishop. Watch your words and walk.
Or what of "given to hospitality" or "readily receptive to others, even in your home". Here is a publick testimony that will make or break you in
this office you so truly desire! The emphasis here is do you receive others or reject others, and if you do receive others, do you do so because
you want to, or because you feel you have to? This one can also tell if you have a serious "heart problem"! I have at first hand experienced the
rudeness and chaff of pastors who do not receive others well...at all! What a wonderful testimony! Truly showing forth the love of God there?
Would you be willing to welcome others in to your home often? Would you be willing to go out of your way to aid others? You should be.
Next is "apt to teach" or "possessing the
ability to teach". Now here you religious leaders are to be able
to teach, to edify, to advise, to nurture,
and to serve to saints, the members of the Body of Christ! The Bishop is to inform and teach others, not dictate terms or policies. Not to be
a dictator or the commander or the sub-captain. Have any of you looked up the word "pastors" in your King James Bible? Ignore the rule of
first mention. Look at where it is mentioned the most! O.T. stuff! Leading sheep. You are not leading sheep, but have in your care a new
creature, a group of Saints. You are to teach saints and that is part of your job! Not be people controllers. "Doctor" so and so. Stop the title
games of religion, and edify the saints! Look at Paul's writtings. They are exclusively to us, and not to anyone else. Study the writtings of
Paul and learn the meaning of true right division for yourselves. Open up the teachings God gave to Paul so we would all know what God
would have us to know. It is not to be limitied to a man with some letters behind his name. That just looks like a man who can not spell. It
could be the reason as to why so many doctors take so long to get out of college...they do not have the basics down. Christ is the start!
I hope this has shed some light for many of you,
and I pray that God will open your eyes and you will not play into this worlds
of 501C and degrees, titles, colleges, and the praise of men. Just go and warn every man and woman and point them to the risen Savior!
There is a dark time to come before too long I'm afraid. Why not have the concern for souls and warn people, not seek after the things of this
evil world. It is all falling apart. You guys do know that right? Things are falling in to place. The Anti-Christ can not take over just yet. Why?
We are still here! The things of this world will fail. They are not really worth what we say they are, that is, in contrast to Christ our Lord!
Just for thought:
3:8 "Yea doubtless, and I count all things but loss
for the excellency of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord: for whom I
suffered the loss of all things, and do count them but dung, that I may win Christ,"
Now we will look at the other
seven requirements for the man who DESIRES the office of a
bishop. Remember Paul wrote what he was told
by the Lord to write, so if you do not like it, perhaps you should learn to walk in grace and let it go, or maybe when you stand before the Lord
Jesus Christ and give an account of yourself you can let Him know then that you did not agree totally with His inspired, Inerrant, Infallible Word,
that is if you think yourselves to be more greater than the Master! Christ died for the sins of the whole world. Past, Present, and Future. Times
Past, But Now, and Ages to Come.
1 Timothy 3:3 "Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous;"
Here we see next "Not given to wine" is mentioned
by Paul. To those who feel stress or weakness, here is a sincere question: "Do
you want to run
for the bottle?" Do you have the forgiveness of sins? Will your feet touch the flames of hell? Then be "Not given to wine"! Also can be used for
smoking, chewing tobacco, gambling, spreading lies, flirting, or to justify self pride, and also pornography! What ever, just because we have the
forgiveness of sins, should we continue in sin? God Forbid! Give in and your flesh will take over.That will not help in trying to win others to Christ.
Now we have "no striker" or "Someone
or something that hits someone or something else". Are any who desire
to be a Bishop blameless in this
one? Do you hit others in anger, or hit a wall, or hit your desk? Do you verbally strike out at others or lash out at certain ones fom the pulpit?
Your agenda is deliver the full council of the Word of God, rightly divided, not play the childish finger pointing games with the saints like a child!
Here is a good one, but mostly ignored by the
beloved brethren "not greedy of filthy lucre". I see and hear of many beloved
brethren who mainly
enter the ministry to have a fulltime job as a pastor. Wrong motive! Or many try to figure out how to get bigger offerings. Wrong motive! Some
try to create new positions in the local church so as to get others on the payroll that they are close to. Wrong motive! Some try to attract rich
families in to get their money. What happens when they pull out and leave you setting with no more money? There are actually men who believe
they are not to have a job! Is that casting a burden on others shoulders, especially in a low income group? That is really showing the love of God!
Taking advantage of others in this fashion is just like yoking a bunch a weak and sick oxen together and pulling out a whip and driving them to
pull and labor for you. And if it is all about you, and not the needs of the Saints, then you are guilty of self indulgence. Creating your kingdom!
Are we all always able to meet the "but
patient" requirement? I know I need help and work in this
one! How about any of you? Can you be
honest? Are you "ALWAYS" patient? Do get impatient? I do. I get impatient to see Jesus! I wait for that day! I can not wait! Kind of like a small
child that is excited about the presents on Christmas morning! But in all areas of your life, can you be honest and say you are always patient?
Can we all say that none of us are "not a
brawler"? What is a brawler? Well it is "To quarrel or fight
noisily"! Is that you? Do you avoid quarrels
or do you join in on them? Do you go and start a quarrel with someone? Do you run down a brother or sister at an other church? Do bicker or
argue openly in front of the weaker believers? What do they think of you? Would that be a topic you would like mentioned at a church dinner?
Do you get impatient, fly off the handle, and foolishly jump in to do something, only to see it fail? Patience works much better. It shines out!
As spoiled as we all are becoming these days,
can any one of us truly say we are "not covetous"? Are you happy with what
you have? Are you
really? Do you care for the souls of other people? Or do you care for your assets, credit cards, savings account, 401K, 501C, SSI, and so
forth? Do you thank God for your home and vehicle to drive? Or do you get mad because a non-believer has better than you? Remember
who the false god of this world is and that he gives the luxurious lifestyles to the people of this world! Are you, or are you "not covetous"?
Can you sense the thoughts running through your minds of "I want...I want...I want"? Remember Bishop, the needs of the Saints are before you
and your needs. You are a servant to them, not to be greedy, not to be selfish, and not to be a bully. You are to edify the Saints! That's it!
1 Timothy 3:4 "One that
ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all
1 Timothy 3:5 "(For if
a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church
Verses 4 and 5 pretty much need no
explaining! How can you be trusted if you and your wife can not handle
the common everyday affairs of
your home and your finances? Got big bills? Got a big house? Need large amounts of money? You may want to stay out of the ministry if you
can not get your spending under control. Do your children behave or are they wild little preachers kids that nobody can stand, but never tell
you? Secrets do get kept from those who desire the office of a bishop! You do know that, right? What if you do not have any kids? Oops! I
guess you can not preach. Right? I mean how can you qualify if you fail in this category, when it does not even apply! Sorry...Guess you can
just set over in the Amen corner, or...hey...set on the front row and amen the pastor when nobody else will! Good one...huh? Maybe he'll let
you dismiss in a word of prayer a time or two! Been there. Done That! No thank you. Played that game myself. Rubbed elbows with big shot
preachers. Got me no where. They are fleshly men who seek more worldly entanglements. They seek more things. They seek more stuff.
1 Timothy 3:6 "Not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil."
Next to the last, but yet a very important
qualification! More and more widely overlooked, and then the
young believing man falls out of the
ministry, or just walks away from the church and hits the bottle! Many young men fail in the ministry each year because this one important
qualification is ignored! Perhaps the old pastor is impatient (oops) and wants new blood in the ministry! Not an excuse! Not at all!
1 Timothy 3:7 "Moreover he must have a good report of them which are without; lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil."
Lastly, and most assuredly, a very
bridging requirement of a Bishop / Edler / Pastor, is to what
sort of reputation you possess with people all
about you, especially those who are outside the Body of Christ. This is a determining factor as to how you conduct your self, especially when
not in the presence of the beloved brethren. You desire this office, you need to be ver careful about your daily walk, lest accusations may be
brought against you, and the Devil would be right there grinning and pointing his fingers to get you out of your office. Your sins may be paid in
full, and you may be fully accepted in the beloved, but you are to have the cleanest walk of the Body of Christ. This is not to say it is okay for
everyone else. None of us are to continue in sin. The fact all of our sins are paid for should prompt us to want nothing to do with them, and
warn every man, and point all to Christ! If we, those whom desire this office, fail to live up to this requirement, anyone of us can very easily
fall in to any of the Devil's traps. Be herein warned...seriously...beloeved.
So in closing...why no double-married
preachers, divorced preachers, or preachers who have never been
married and yet have children? Why
are the liberals, doctors, and women allowed to become pastors? Religion! Hypocrisy! Oh...and there is one more! Nobody wants Paul's
teachings. It is easier to preach the gospel of the circumcision and keep every one under the guidelines of the law, and under the thumbs of the
"ONE and ONLY" beloved brethren, you know the ones who turn "This is a true saying, If a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth
a good work." into "THE CALLING" and not a desire for a good work. The office of a Bishop can not be earned. It can not be voted. It can
not be legislated. It does not come from a college or a university. It comes from God! That man, not woman, is to be one who conducts
himself in such a way that he brings no bad reflections on the local assembly, even from the lost people all around him. Points to Christ only!
To the brethren who have been hurt by the "ONE and ONLY" religious leaders from the churches, this I offer to you:
Romans 11:29 "For the gifts and calling of God are without repentance."
I Corinthians 9:18 "What is my reward then? Verily that,
when I preach the gospel, I may make the gospel of Christ without
that I abuse not my power in the gospel."
1 Thessalonians 2:9 "For
ye remember, brethren, our labour and travail: for
labouring night and day, because we would not be
chargeable unto any of you, we preached unto you the gospel of God."
1 Timothy 1:11 "According to the glorious gospel of
the blessed God, which was committed to my trust."
1 Timothy 1:12 "And I thank Christ Jesus our Lord, who hath enabled me, for that he counted me faithful, putting me into the ministry;"
1 Timothy 1:13 "Who was before a blasphemer, and a persecutor, and injurious: but I obtained mercy, because I did it ignorantly in unbelief."
1 Timothy 1:14 "And the grace of our Lord was exceeding abundant with faith and love which is in Christ Jesus."
Grace, mercy, and peace be unto you
Elder Scott Ray S.B.G.